we are shallow, ain't we?

i realized today, as i walked down the streets of chicago and checked to see what my hair looked like in a storefront window, that humanity is incredibly shallow. i should be clear. this ws not a sudden revelation. this is something i have alwyas known, but as i enter into the wonderful world of dating (not too far in though) it is becoming excruciatingly clear the level of shallowness we all seem to live in. i met a guy, in passing sort of, and i thought to myself "i would want to go out with him". later when i told my dad about it, i had to think, what was it about him that made me want to go out with him? lets see, i like the little of his personality that i saw in that half hour, i liked that he was yehsivish with a twist, kinda like me, i liked who he was friends with (i hope so one of the people he was friends with was my brother), i like where he is in yeshiva, and then there is the ultimate reason that people say they want to go out with someone that they just met, is becuase they likes the way they looked. now i feel really shallow. because when i think about it, the real reason i want to go out with him is becuase i thought he was cute. so now i feel really shallow. so how exactly are you supposed to be able to move past the superficial to see what the person is like...if youve never actually met the person. i guess the only real way, is to go out with them, see what they are like more, to be able to move past their looks, and the little you know about them, and see what else there is too them. the world of dating is such a strange place, im not exactly what to do wit hit all. i just file away bits and peices of informaiton, storeit away in the bakc of my mind, hoping all the little tidbits will one dya help me when i actually d go out on a date. but what helped me the most is what my mom said.
"Its not all about picking the other person apart, trying to see if every nuance of their lives and personality will fit with yours. Go out. Have a good time. Enjoy the person you're with and their company. Even if in the first fifteen minutes you decide this is not the person you want to marry, have fun with the time you have with the other person. Especially if you are nto going to go out with them again. Be yourself, have a good time. Make eahc other laugh. The outcome might suprise you."